better together…forever

Posted June 10, 2012 | Lessons I've Learned, Today I'm Grateful for...
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Today Buffy came over to my apartment and asked me not if I would marry him again, but if I would stay married to him.

I said yes.

Then I asked him if he would stay married to me.

He said yes.

And we exchanged rings that we picked out together. Each is a 7mm titanium band with an indigo enamel stripe [1], and both are inscribed:

"better together - forever"

Buffy brought the same champagne (well, not the very same champagne, but the same brand) as we had when he proposed to me in August of 1984. He also brought the champagne glasses, since all I have are old-fashioned glasses and tumblers.

New rings for a new phase in our relationship

We toasted our decision to stay married – a commitment that was uncertain six months ago.

I hate to say that the Commonwealth of Virginia might have a law that makes sense, but having to wait six months before we could file for divorce helped me to see that I didn’t want to divorce Buffy. We just need some space between us. [2]

But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. - Kahlil Gibran

I love you, Buffy.

. . .

[1] Buffy picked out the rings at the Cubby and Fox Etsy store. They do wonderful work – not to mention that their customer service is awesome, and I highly recommend them. They even wrote a blog post about us called “The Perils and Payoffs of Love.”

[2] Learn about our new relationship as LAMPs: Living Apart Married People. >

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4 Responses to “better together…forever”

Buffy Lyon
June 10th, 2012 @ 9:41 pm

I love you too, Janeson.
Nina
June 10th, 2012 @ 10:18 pm

I am in love with love; a hopeless romantic – This love story put a smile on my face and Cheers to both of you!
janeson
June 10th, 2012 @ 11:06 pm

Awwww! You commented on my blog post, Buffy! * EPT *

Note to everyone else: EPT stands for “Electronic Paw Touch” and isn’t a reference to a pregnancy test
Cathy Dick
June 12th, 2012 @ 8:39 am

What a great way to stay committed. I know the last few months have been difficult. It’s not easy to decide how to still enjoy the company and companionship of someone you love, but feel the need to separate from the daily “stuff” that tugs at us within the home setting. You both have made a choice that suits your needs and I am so happy for you. So, Happy Reuniting!!

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